Stages of Loss

When I hadn't completely lost my job a few weeks ago, I mentally lost it. I still worked at my job, just in a different seat with different responsibilities. I reported to someone new and I worked for the same hours. Why do I feel like crap?

I did what everyone told me to do, get a job through someone you know! But every work environment is different. Changes in the workplace happen all the time. So when I was asked to move into a different department, I wasn't happy about. I went through a lot of different emotions. It was plain to see. I went through those stages of loss and thought about my high school and college psychology classes. I really did go through the Stages of Loss. Even though the stages of loss are usually referring to death, I definitely could relate.

1. Denial: I kept asking my supervisor questions about assignments I no longer had. I was asked how I felt about the new opportunity and I looked confused. I didn't want to believe it! I was just getting the hang of everything. It has only been 6 months for heaven sakes!! 

2. Anger: no surprise that I became angry when it started to hit me that I wasn't needed for the typical responsibilities. My routine was being completely shut off. My normal responsibilities were put on complete hold. I am very driven so it was tough for me to hold.

So when life giver you lemons you make lemonade. When your supervisor gives you no work, you apply for a new job. 

3. Bargaining:  I was convincing myself that I should have done something different, maybe this or that. They made their decision. I was done.

4. Depression: I could feel my time at my job slowly disintegrating. Now I'm just sad and unhappy. I'm depressed because I felt my job being swept from under me and I had nothing to hold on to.

5. Acceptance: Business is business. Yes it definitely helped that I was able to achieve this job opportunity through someone I know but they still are a business and when things aren't working out anymore, changes need to be made. I've accepted the fact that I need a new kind of job opportunity.


I had restless and upset nights, total mental breakdowns. But I knew there was something out there for me. Never give up!! Thanks to so many family and friends I called and talked to, I was able to start again. So I went through the stages of loss and I am back on my toes looking like crazy for a new job. I have found even more platforms where companies list open opportunities. It was a good thing and I am happy to be looking again for a job that will be in the Big Apple!!!

Until next time! (which will be soon since I want to talk about the platforms I am using to apply for jobs!)

xoxo
OneSmartLady